Do not try to Rescue someone who does not want to be Rescued

Sometimes, despite our best intentions, our efforts to help may fall on deaf ears, and it’s wiser to redirect our energies towards those who are receptive to our support.

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As an educator, following Jordan Peterson’s advice can be challenging, as our natural inclination is to assist our students or clients. However, through years of experience, I’ve come to realize that some individuals simply don’t want to be rescued; they prefer to remain in their current state, even if it means wallowing in difficulties. Attempting to aid these individuals can actually harm your business in the long run.

I’ve encountered situations where I’ve pushed my students too hard, resulting in their annoyance and eventual departure from my classes. It’s become clear that it’s more productive to invest my energy in those who appreciate and benefit from it.

This dilemma reminds me of tales from the Mahabharata, where even a divine intervention by Krishna failed to persuade Duryodhana to seek a peaceful resolution with the Pandavas. Despite being offered a generous compromise by the Krishna himself, Duryodhana adamantly refused, demonstrating his unwillingness to cooperate.*

If even the Gods couldn’t influence Duryodhana, how can ordinary individuals like you and me expect to help those who refuse to be helped?

Contrast Duryodhana with Arjuna — Arjuna heeds to Krishna’s counsel and emerges victorious and saves the day.

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Consider a situation where a wise mentor, reminiscent of Krishna from the Mahabharata, provides counsel to a troubled individual resembling Duryodhana. Despite the mentor’s sincere endeavours, the individual adamantly refuses any aid, resolved to continue down their detrimental course.

In such instances, the mentor should step back and allow the individual to chart their own course. Should the individual eventually realize their error, they may return to seek guidance from the mentor at a later time.

Let the Laws of Free Will and Destiny play out the end game? Guess that’s what Krishna would have in mind after meeting Duryodhana.

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*Lord Krishna asked Duryodhana to give just five villages to Pandavas to avert the impending war. At the end of the Mahabharata, the losses were immense on both sides. The war resulted in the deaths of numerous warriors, including major figures like Bhishma, Drona, Karna, and many others. Entire armies were decimated, leading to widespread devastation and loss of life.